Because you’re always losing the plot and missing the point, I think it’s better for me to be clear. People who don’t know the extent of your behaviour may think I am the one over reacting. Whatever I listed in the previous post are just some of the more trivial things at the top of my head. I don’t know if you’ve read it yet. I never finished what I had to say a few weeks ago. Important things. I’m not sure what sort of a coward you are making yourself out to be, are you afraid of facing me or are you afraid of facing the truth or are you afraid of facing yourself.
But you know what I say, as long as you can live with yourself, everything will be alright.
Anyways, it’s very simple actually. If your idea of friendship is limited to having fun, putting each other on a pedestal and then letting things be when a friend makes mistakes or not helping her when she has character issues that pisses everyone off, then I am not the friend you seek and you are not ready to have me as a friend.
I want to say the same thing in Malay.
Kalau kau nak kawan setakat kawan happy-happy, kawan masak-masak, sanjung-menyanjung antara satu sama lain tapi buat bodoh bila kawan buat salah, tak boleh kena tegur, buat bodoh bila kau perasan kawan kau tu ada character issues… banyak minah-minah kau boleh cari kat parties. Ni bukan kes geng tak geng, tu time primary school kau boleh layan. Kalau tak boleh kena tegur tentang perangai masing-masing, jangan berkawan dengan kita yang dah berumur ni. Pergi cari kawan yang belum mencecah kematangan.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t hate you. I am disappointed and saddened by your lack of character. Before things blow out of proportion, it’s better to put our friendship to a halt. Who knows what the future holds. Everyone is capable of changing.
As you already know, my husband is not a mat. Ending my friendship with you does not mean my husband is doing the same. He has no issues with you. I’m sure he still regards you as a friend. And I am not a minah. I won’t poison his head and sway his neutral stand.
Sometimes you need to let friends take their own journey in life. Who would’ve known Jay and I would cross paths again and end up where we are right now. Who would’ve thought a party friend tonggang terbalik sama-sama in the end would meet again, give each other strength and guide each other today. You know what I mean?
But aku halalkan segalanya. Aku maafkan kalau seandainya ada kesalahan di antara kita. And aku harap kau halalkan segala makan minum dan maafkan aku kalau aku menyinggung perasaan kau. Maafkan aku kalau kata-kata aku sebagai seorang kawan menyakitkan hati kau. Kata-kata aku itu hanya sebagai seorang kawan yang ikhlas. Aku berharap kau fikirkan apa yang aku sempat sampaikan hari tu dan aku berharap kau ubah sikap kau. And do it for your own sake, not mine.
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